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Have you ever wondered why you behave and feel differently at different times? Do you ever feel conflicted about what to do? Do your relationships fall into predictable patterns?

The reason for these types of experiences is that who you are is not as simple as you have believed. When you say ‘I’ or ‘me’ you are in fact referring to a different part of your personality at different times. You have a number of inner selves, which together make up your personality. Different selves assume your identity throughout the day, each one taking care of particular aspects of your life.

This website is a resource for you to help you learn about your various inner selves and how to use them more consciously. This work will enrich your life, transform your relationships and help you to make better choices in all that you do.

Throughout the site you’ll find explanatory information on accessing and integrating your selves with Voice Dialogue and practical help with using this work in all aspects of your day-to-day life.

You’ll find help with relationships, decision-making, parenting, mastering your energy field to set healthy boundaries and have more choice in how you connect with others, dealing with perfectionism and stress, accessing creativity, communicating better, and generally with growing into all that you can be.

If you have any questions or feedback, please feel free to contact me via the social media links in the box below or in the Comments section at the end of each page.


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Astra Niedra

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Helping you transform your life with Voice Dialogue, Relationship and the Psychology of Selves.

What is Voice Dialogue?

Voice Dialogue is a technique that enables you to connect with and give voice to the various parts of yourself which together make up who you are.

These parts are the most discrete units of the psyche and are called inner selves, sub-personalities or selves.

Your selves may include the Pleaser, Perfectionist, Inner Critic, Responsible Parent, Achiever, Warrior, Worrier, Romantic, Spiritual Seeker, Procrastinator, Joker, Adventurer, Princess, Creative, Playful Child, Rebel, Patriarch, the Wise self, and the Vulnerable Inner Child.

The Disney Pixar movie Inside Out portrays selves as emotions, such as Joy, Anger and Sadness.

Inside Out Movie | Inner Selves, Emotions

The selves as emotions in Inside Out

Some of your selves play a greater role in your life and others a lesser one. Each of us has a unique balance of selves, depending on cultural and family influences, genetic predisposition, birth order and early life experiences.

When you develop greater self-awareness and start to include your various selves in your life more consciously, your life transforms.

You’re able to make new and better choices, you have access to a greater range of feelings, ideas and abilities, and the amount of energy you have available grows.

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“We consider Astra Niedra to be an outstanding teacher, trainer and facilitator of the Voice Dialogue process and its attendant theoretical structure relating to the Psychology of the Aware Ego… You are fortunate to have her with you in Sydney.”Hal Stone PhD and Sidra Stone PhD, Founders of Voice Dialogue

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  1. Brava Astra:
    Your website is stunning, visually beautiful, and full of ideas and information. I wish you were nearby so we could meet and talk.
    Dassie Hoffman

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      Thanks for your wonderful feedback Dassie – I would love to go to New York again some day… if/when I do, I’ll definitely be in touch!

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      Hi Coly – to be added to the mail list you will need to fill in the subscription form on my site (the form appears on most pages). I’m unable to add you manually because it is an automated process.
      Thank you,

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