Change Old Patterns and Discover New Ways of Being, Behaving and Relating

Free Yourself from Being Stuck and Lead the Life You Really Want

How would you feel if you could accept yourself completely as you are now and also allow yourself to gently grow?

Imagine if you could support yourself in your endeavours and be objective about your inner critical voice.

What if you could calm yourself when stressed, change how you respond in your relationships, choose better options in all aspects of your life?

You can do all these things.

Meet the Outgoing Self!

The Outgoing Self

The problem is most of us live on autopilot most of the time.

Our lives are controlled by the parts of our personality that have become dominant in us. These parts developed in our childhood to protect us and help us survive.

They’ve done an amazing job (you’re here!), but the way they function (and therefore how you function) may no longer be ideal.

Our habitual patterns and reactions, our sometimes confusing feelings about our partner, children and friends, our rules and judgments about ourselves and others that cause pain and stop us from living our lives fully, come from these parts.

Because when you say ‘I’ you are in fact speaking from a part of yourself – an inner self. When you say ‘I’, it may be your Responsible Self who is present, or it may be your Dreamer, or it may be your Pleaser.

Meet The Perfectionist Inner Self

The Perfectionist

You actually have many inner selves, and together they make up your personality as a whole.

So your Achiever or Perfectionist may be who you are at work. But your inner Nurturing Parent or Nagging Parent may be who emerges with your children.

Meet the Spiritual Self!

The Spiritual Self

Or in your relationship you may sometimes be your Loving Self or Playful Self or Sensual Self. But at other times your inner Critical Parent or Controlling Parent or Needy Child takes over.

It could be that you are always operating from one self, such as the Responsible self or the Pleaser, and you struggle to express other parts of yourself.

Each part has a function in your psyche, and how you behave and feel is determined by how your inner selves are ‘configured’ in you.

That has massive implications for how your life and relationships play out.

So if you want more choice in how you experience your life, if you want to release old patterns and access new ways of behaving and relating, then you need to develop greater awareness of your many selves and how they operate within you.

This website has plenty of information to help you with this process. You’ll find explanatory information and articles on various ways to use the ideas and techniques from Voice Dialogue in your day-to-day life.

There are articles on relationships, parenting, setting boundaries, decision-making, handling stress, accessing creativity, spirituality, and more. You can also purchase my books, the dvds/audios featuring Voice Dialogue’s creators Drs Hal and Sidra Stone demonstrating this work, and books from other teachers. Enjoy!

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Which Inner Self is Running Your Life?

  • Includes an example of how Voice Dialogue helps you make more conscious choices
  • A summary of 20 inner selves that could be running your life now
  • A simple technique to identify your inner selves

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Hi, I’m Astra! 

Astra Niedra | Voice Dialogue in Daily Life

A Voice Dialogue facilitator, teacher and writer, helping you to enrich your life and relationships with the powerful transformational work Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves.

Check out my books The Perfect Relationship, Enlightenment Through Motherhood, and Which Self Are You?

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  1. Brava Astra:
    Your website is stunning, visually beautiful, and full of ideas and information. I wish you were nearby so we could meet and talk.
    Dassie Hoffman

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      Thanks for your wonderful feedback Dassie – I would love to go to New York again some day… if/when I do, I’ll definitely be in touch!

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      Hi Coly – to be added to the mail list you will need to fill in the subscription form on my site (the form appears on most pages). I’m unable to add you manually because it is an automated process.
      Thank you,

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