Learn How Your Inner Selves Affect Your Relationships, Life Choices & Your Self Expression

Have you ever felt there’s more to who you are than you allow yourself to be? Maybe you limit how you express yourself because of internal rules inherited from your family or culture? Or because of fear or anxiety?

Have you ever felt conflicted when making a decision? Where one part of you wants one thing and another part wants something else?

Do you feel differently about your partner or children at different times? Maybe you have habitual responses in your relationships you would like to change? 

The reason you have these inconsistent feelings and thoughts is that who you are is not as simple as you may have believed. When you say ‘I’ you are in fact referring to a different part of your personality at different times.

Meet The Perfectionist Inner Self

The Perfectionist

You actually have a number of inner selves, which together make up your personality/psyche. And your different selves assume your identity at different times.

So your Inner Perfectionist or Achiever may be who you are at work. But your Nurturing Parent or Responsible Parent is who emerges with your children.

Meet the Spiritual Self!

The Spiritual Self

Or at the beginning of a relationship you may be your Adventurous Self or Playful Self or Sensual Self. But after a time your inner Critical Parent or Needy Child emerges, causing all kinds of relationship problems.

It could be that you are always operating from one self, such as the Responsible self or the Pleaser, and all the other parts of you are dying to have expression.

This has massive implications for how your life and relationships play out.

If you want greater choice in how you experience life, then you need to develop greater awareness of your many selves and how they operate.

This website is a resource for you to learn about your inner selves and how to use them more consciously.

Throughout this site you’ll find explanatory information on becoming aware of your selves with Voice Dialogue and practical tips and techniques you can use every day.

You’ll find help with relationships, decision-making, parenting, mastering your energy field to set healthy boundaries and have more choice in how you connect with others, dealing with perfectionism and stress, accessing creativity, communicating better, and generally with growing into all that you can be.

And if you have any questions or feedback, please feel free to contact me via the social media links in the box below or in the Comments section at the end of each page.


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  1. Brava Astra:
    Your website is stunning, visually beautiful, and full of ideas and information. I wish you were nearby so we could meet and talk.
    Dassie Hoffman

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      Thanks for your wonderful feedback Dassie – I would love to go to New York again some day… if/when I do, I’ll definitely be in touch!

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      Hi Coly – to be added to the mail list you will need to fill in the subscription form on my site (the form appears on most pages). I’m unable to add you manually because it is an automated process.
      Thank you,

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