Discover Your Inner Selves and Experience the Richness and Totality of Who You Are
Learn How to Transform Old Patterns and Gain New Ways of Being, Behaving and Relating
Imagine if you could love yourself completely as you are now, but you could also connect with and incorporate other aspects of yourself.
Wouldn’t it be helpful if you could support yourself in your endeavours and use the skills of your Inner Perfectionist and Inner Critic constructively rather than have them sabotage your efforts?
What if you could be present more often and have the ability to calm yourself when stressed, change how you respond in your relationships, choose better options in all aspects of your life?
You can do all these things.
The problem is most of us live on autopilot most of the time.
Our lives are controlled by the parts of our personality that have become dominant in us. These parts developed in our childhood to protect us and help us survive.
They’ve done an amazing job (you’re here!), but the way they function (and therefore how you function) may no longer be ideal.
Our habitual patterns and reactions, our sometimes confusing feelings about our partner, children and friends, our rules and judgments about ourselves and others that cause pain and stop us from being fully ourselves and living our lives fully, come from these parts.
Because whenever you say ‘I’ you are in fact speaking from only a part of yourself – an inner self or team of selves that operate together. At any point in time your I may be the voice of your Responsible Self, or it may be a Critical Self, or it may be a Pleaser.
You actually have many inner selves, and together they make up your personality as a whole. Some selves you identify with, while others are relegated to your ‘shadow’. And different selves emerge at different times of the day.
So your Achiever or Perfectionist may be who you are at work. But your inner Nurturing Parent or Nagging Parent may be who emerges with your children.
Or in your relationship you may sometimes be your Loving Self or Playful Self or Sensual Self. But at other times your inner Critical Parent or Controlling Parent or Needy Child takes over.
It could be that you are always operating from one self or a group of selves that work together, such as the Responsible Self or the Pleaser, and you struggle to express other parts of yourself.
Each part has a function in your psyche, and how you behave and feel is determined by how your inner selves are ‘configured’ in you.
That has massive implications for how your life and relationships play out.
If you’d like more choice in how you experience your life, if you’d like to release old patterns, heal old wounds and access new ways of feeling, behaving and relating, then developing greater awareness of and connection to your inner selves will help.
When you understand why your selves operate as they do, then you have the opportunity to take control and make more conscious choices.
This website has plenty of resources to help you with this process.
You can also purchase my books, the dvds/audios featuring Voice Dialogue’s creators Drs Hal and Sidra Stone demonstrating this work, and books from other teachers.
And if you have any questions, just send me a message via a comment on any of the posts here or via Facebook.
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