Voice Dialogue is a powerful technique for connecting with and giving voice to the various parts of yourself – your inner selves. It expands your awareness and gives you access to feelings, perceptions and abilities you may have been suppressing or that have simply been unconscious. It includes work with energetics (such as learning to feel when you are connecting in a personal or impersonal way) and learning about how relationships work. The results: You gain a more complete sense of self, the ability to make more conscious choices in all areas of your life, and the capacity to enjoy your life more fully.

Imagine if you could fully accept yourself as you are now, but also continue to grow.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could follow your dreams and effectively handle inner criticism, negativity and doubt?

What if you could improve your relationships, consciously choosing the degree of connection and intimacy, the strength of your boundaries, and how you communicate?

You can do all these things.

The problem is most of us live on autopilot most of the time.

Our behaviours, our thoughts, and our feelings are controlled by the parts of our personality that have become dominant in us. These parts developed in our childhood to protect us and help us survive. They are our ‘defences’.

They’ve done an amazing job (you’re here!), but the way they function (and therefore how you function) may no longer be ideal.

Our habitual patterns and reactions, our conflicted feelings, our judgments about ourselves and others that cause pain, come from these parts.

Because whenever you say ‘I’ you are speaking from one of the parts of yourself. At any point in time your I may be the voice of your Responsible Self, or Judgmental Self, or Analytical Mind, or Pleaser, or any other self you identify with.

Meet the Outgoing Self!

The Outgoing Self

You actually have many inner selves, and together they make up your personality as a whole.

Some selves you accept and identify with, while others are relegated to your ‘shadow’. And different selves emerge at different times.

So your Achiever or Perfectionist may be who you are at work. But your inner Caring Parent (or Nagging Parent) may be who emerges with your children.

Or in your relationship you may sometimes be your Loving Self or Playful Self or Sensual Self. But at other times your inner Critical Self or Controlling Parent or Needy Child takes over.

It could be that you are always operating from one self or a group of selves that work together, such as the Responsible Self or the Pleaser, and you struggle to express other parts of yourself.

Meet The Perfectionist Inner Self

The Perfectionist

Each part has a function in your psyche, and how you behave and feel is determined by how your inner selves are ‘configured’ in you.

That has massive implications for how your life and relationships play out.

If you’d like more choice in how you experience your life, if you’d like to release old patterns, heal old wounds and access new ways of feeling, behaving and relating, then developing greater awareness of and connection to your inner selves is key.

When you understand why your selves operate as they do, then you have the opportunity to take responsibility and tap into other parts of yourself and make new and better choices going forward.

This website has plenty of resources to help you with this process.

Meet the Spiritual Self!

The Spiritual Self

You’ll find help with relationships, parenting, setting boundaries, decision-making, handling stress, accessing creativity, spirituality, and more.

You can also purchase my books, the dvds/audios featuring Voice Dialogue’s creators Drs Hal and Sidra Stone demonstrating this work, and books from other teachers.

And if you have any questions, just send me a message via a comment on any of the posts here or via Facebook.

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Hi! I’m Astra 

Astra Niedra | Voice Dialogue in Daily Life

My work is sharing with you how to use the life-changing ideas and techniques from the personal growth work Voice Dialogue in your day-to-day life.

The information and exercises here will give you an appreciation of the many wonderful parts – or selves – of your psyche, insights into how relationships work and how to improve them, and tips on handling the challenges of child-raising.  

Check out my books:

 The Perfect Relationship (for the 10 fundamental steps to a fulfilling long-term relationship)
How to Make a Relationship Work: The 10 Essential Steps

Enlightenment Through Motherhood (for an entertaining read on the hidden gifts of motherhood)
Enlightenment Through Motherhood

Which Self Are You? (for a consciousness-expanding journey through the selves of the human psyche).
Which Self are You? Meet the Inner Selves that Constitute Your Personality


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“I consider the Voice Dialogue process to be one of the most powerful tools for personal growth that I’ve ever discovered.”Shakti Gawain, author of Creative Visualisation and Living in the Light

“We consider Astra Niedra to be an outstanding teacher, trainer and facilitator of the Voice Dialogue process …”Hal Stone PhD and Sidra Stone PhD, Founders of Voice Dialogue

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  1. Brava Astra:
    Your website is stunning, visually beautiful, and full of ideas and information. I wish you were nearby so we could meet and talk.
    Dassie Hoffman

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      Thanks for your wonderful feedback Dassie – I would love to go to New York again some day… if/when I do, I’ll definitely be in touch!

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      Hi Coly – to be added to the mail list you will need to fill in the subscription form on my site (the form appears on most pages). I’m unable to add you manually because it is an automated process.
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