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Astra Niedra | Voice Dialogue in Daily Life

Welcome to this free resource to help you improve every aspect of your life with the powerful personal growth work known as Voice Dialogue.

Learn about the parts – or inner selves – of your psyche and how they affect you. Understand how you work, and how your relationships work.

Try the techniques on offer here and gain greater self-awareness, compassion (for yourself and others), connection to more of who you are, and ultimately more choice in how you express yourself and experience your life.

Get FREE instant access to my introductory ebook Which Inner Self is Running Your Life? 


“I consider the Voice Dialogue process to be one of the most powerful tools for personal growth that I’ve ever discovered.”Shakti Gawain, author of Creative Visualisation and Living in the Light

Do you want to make better decisions? Change patterns that are holding you back? Heal old wounds? Enjoy fulfilling relationships?

Most of us live on autopilot most of the time, acting and reacting in habitual ways.

Sometimes we’re aware of this and try to change, but most of the time we just keep on thinking the same way and doing the same thing, over and over.

Or we struggle to think/behave differently but get stuck or lost or feel like we’re pretending.

The reason for this is our behaviours, thoughts and feelings come from the dominant parts of our personality, which developed in our childhood to protect us and enable our survival.

These parts are our ‘primary selves’ or ‘primary self’ if we have one main one. They are our defences, and are who we identify as.

Our primary selves do an amazing job, but the way they function (and therefore how we function) may no longer be ideal.

For instance, if you developed a highly Responsible personality because that’s what worked in your family system, then as an adult you may be someone who others depend on but you might also find it difficult to let go, to be spontaneous and to have fun. And if you ever did behave irresponsibly, then you would beat yourself up about that.

Or if you developed a strong Analytical Mind then you may find it difficult to express and understand feelings or to feel at all. And if you ever did get carried away with an emotion, then you might go too far and would feel terrible about it afterwards.

Or if you became a Pleaser, then you probably find it difficult to feel entitled to take for yourself and have your own needs met. If you ever behaved selfishly you’d feel you were a bad person.

Meet the Outgoing Self!

The Outgoing Self

You actually have many selves that make up your personality. A bit like an onion with its many layers, or an orchestra with its many instruments and players.

Some selves you accept, like and identify with, while others are relegated to your ‘shadow’ where you judge them or have little or no awareness of them.

Usually people become different selves at different times.

So your Achiever or Perfectionist may be who you are at work. But your inner Caring Parent may be who emerges with your children.

Or in your relationship you may sometimes be your Playful Self or Sensual Self. But at other times your Critical Father/Mother or Needy Self takes over.

It could be that you are always operating from one self or a group of selves that work together, such as the Responsible Self or the Pleaser, and you struggle to express other parts of yourself.

Meet The Perfectionist Inner Self

The Perfectionist

Each part has a function in your psyche, and how you behave and feel is determined by how your inner selves are ‘configured’ in you.

That has massive implications for how your life and relationships play out.

If you’d like more choice in how you experience your life, if you’d like to change old patterns, heal old wounds and access new ways of feeling, behaving and relating, then developing greater awareness of and connection to your inner selves is key.

Voice Dialogue will help you with this process.

Meet the Spiritual Self!

The Spiritual Self

Find out how Voice Dialogue can help with relationships, parenting, setting boundaries, decision-making, handling stress, accessing creativity, spirituality, and more.

My articles include both explanatory information and practical exercises and techniques you can start now.

You can also purchase my books (please do as the funds help with the running costs of this freely available site), the dvds/audios featuring Voice Dialogue’s creators Drs Hal and Sidra Stone demonstrating this work, and books from other teachers.

You’ll also find links to facilitators worldwide who offer private Voice Dialogue sessions and workshops.

This work will help you with general personal growth and development, relationship issues, parenting challenges, sports coaching, helping business people understand their psychological make-up and that of staff, helping actors and other artists access the different parts of themselves to bring characters to life, and so on.

And if you have any questions, just send me a message via a comment on any of the posts here or via Facebook or Instagram.

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  1. Brava Astra:
    Your website is stunning, visually beautiful, and full of ideas and information. I wish you were nearby so we could meet and talk.
    Dassie Hoffman

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      Thanks for your wonderful feedback Dassie – I would love to go to New York again some day… if/when I do, I’ll definitely be in touch!

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      Hi Coly – to be added to the mail list you will need to fill in the subscription form on my site (the form appears on most pages). I’m unable to add you manually because it is an automated process.
      Thank you,

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