Transform Your Life When You Embrace Your Inner Selves

  • You

    Personal Growth with Voice Dialogue
  • Relationships

    Voice Dialogue for Relationships
  • Your Children

    Voice Dialogue for Conscious Parenting
  • Your World

    Voice Dialogue for making the world a better place

Your inner selves include the Pleaser, the Selfish Self, the Ambitious Self, the Lazy Self, the Perfectionist, the Rational Mind, the Psychological Knower, the Carer, the Dreamer, the Responsible Parent, the Adventurer, the Spiritual Seeker, the Inner Critic, the Rebel, the Magical Child and the Vulnerable Inner Child.

Together your selves make up who you are, with some playing a greater role and others a minor one. Each of us has a unique balance of selves, depending on cultural and family influences, genetic predisposition, birth order and early life experiences.

Pioneering psychologists Drs Hal and Sidra Stone created a technique called Voice Dialogue which allows you to hear your selves speak and to feel their presence. This process makes you aware of how your various selves are affecting your life experiences and enables you to make more conscious choices.

I’m a Voice Dialogue teacher (more about me here) and I’ve created this website to share information, tips and techniques from this remarkable work. You’ll find help with relationship problems, parenting, setting boundaries, decision-making, stress management, handling self-criticism and enabling self-acceptance and wholeness.

Learn more about Voice Dialogue here or start with an article on relationships, parenting, career success, decision-making, self-esteem, creativity, conflict resolution, integrating spirituality with your instinctual nature, balancing doing and beinghonouring masculinity and femininity.

And if you have any questions about how Voice Dialogue can help you to change your life for the better, please feel free to contact me via Facebook or Twitter.

“We consider Astra Niedra to be an outstanding teacher, trainer and facilitator of the Voice Dialogue process and its attendant theoretical structure relating to the Psychology of the Aware Ego… You are fortunate to have her with you in Sydney.”Hal Stone PhD and Sidra Stone PhD, Founders of Voice Dialogue


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Check out the new Shop For Your Inner Selves. You’ll find quality products and services curated to appeal to different selves.

There are items for your Inner Traveller, Healthy Self, Homemaker, Aphrodite, and more.

You’ll find some great Christmas gifts too! 


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Navigating this Website

I’ve categorised articles under these topics: YouYour RelationshipsYour Children and Your World.

You’ll also find a Fast Facts section on key concepts such as What is Voice Dialogue?the Aware Ego ProcessWhat is Awareness?.

Then there’s the Meet Some Selves section which includes interviews with some of the selves and descriptions of other selves.

You can also click on the subject tags at the bottom of this page to view articles that deal with the subject you’re interested in.

And you can check out my books here – if you purchase any, the funds go towards keeping this website running – thank you!

Recent Posts 

Riding Life’s Tidal Waves

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”Jon Kabat-Zinn

When I was working on my last book, I’d arrive home after dropping the kids at school and head straight to the study, ignoring the mess the children love living in.

During those uninterrupted hours, nothing could have lured me from my computer. I knew my time was limited (it’s amazing how short the school day seems when it’s not you at school!), so that helped me to be disciplined.

But there was also another factor at work: it felt as if I needed to write that book. I really had to do it. I didn’t have any choice.

Being caught up so completely with something in your life and learning to ride that wave is what this post is about. 

Read the full post here

“I know your work will make a huge difference to the lives of many people.”Mrs A Salis

Check Out My Articles Featured In:

Personal Growth and Relationships by Astra Niedra in Tiny Buddha

Personal Growth and Relationships by Astra Niedra in Finer Minds - The Hidden Secret to Lasting Passion in Your Relationship

Rebelle Society Article

Personal Growth with Voice Dialogue in Nurture Natural Parenting Magazine

Personal Growth with Voice Dialogue in Wake-Up-World

Also in WellBeing Magazine, Yen magazine, Voice Dialogue International, Dana

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  1. Brava Astra:
    Your website is stunning, visually beautiful, and full of ideas and information. I wish you were nearby so we could meet and talk.
    Dassie Hoffman

    1. Author

      Thanks for your wonderful feedback Dassie – I would love to go to New York again some day… if/when I do, I’ll definitely be in touch!

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      Hi Coly – to be added to the mail list you will need to fill in the subscription form on my site (the form appears on most pages). I’m unable to add you manually because it is an automated process.
      Thank you,

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