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How Do You Know if Your Relationship is Over? First Find Out if You’re in a ‘Negative Bonding Pattern’

Should you end your relationship? That's a question many people ask at some stage in a long-term relationship. Especially after a big argument, an attraction or affair, or a series of smaller disagreements over time, or if you find yourself feeling negative about your relationship or about your partner. But before taking action you might later regret, first work out if you're stuck in a negative bonding pattern ...
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How to Make Your Relationship Work: Respect Your Relationship as Teacher, Healer and Guide

To make your relationship work so that it's satisfying and fulfilling for both you and your partner, begin to respect your relationship as your teacher, healer and guide. There are ten fundamental steps to do this in your relationship. In my book The Perfect Relationship I describe the ten steps to transform a relationship into one that supports both partners in the relationship to grow and heal. The ...
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Energy and Energetic Patterns

Energy, Energetic Patterns, Energies - An Introduction to the Human Energy Field Energy is the 'stuff' from which the selves that make up our psyche are made. Each self is an energetic pattern and has its own energy that you can perceive. A rational self has an impersonal, mental energy. An emotional self has a more personal, feeling energy. The energy ...
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How to Find Your Soul Mate

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung.  Often when people are looking for their soul mate, they either look for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. So they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner - either as ...
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Children as Consciousness Teachers

Your children can teach you more about yourself and about life than most adults can. I've found they can even teach you more than the most revered spiritual and personal growth teachers. If you approach parenting with this attitude of honouring your children as teachers for you, the rewards you gain are priceless. This type of parenting has come to be defined as Conscious Parenting and has become popularised since Dr Shefali Tsabary ...
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Has Your Relationship Lost its Spark? Check if You’re Stuck in a ‘Positive Bonding Pattern’

If your relationship has lost its spark but you still love your partner, it's likely you're stuck in a relationship pattern called a positive bonding pattern. Learn how these innate relationship patterns work, and how to navigate them so you can get your relationship back on track. It's normal for the excitement you might have felt at the beginning of your relationship to diminish over ...
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How to Keep Your Relationship Strong After a Baby

Having a baby is usually a time of great joy but it is also a time when the relationship between partners is challenged. This is because you undergo a major transformation when you become a parent. A whole new part of your psyche is born - the Inner Mother or Inner Father. This personal change, together with the addition of a new person in the family system, leads to ...
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Conflict Resolution in Africa uses the Aware Ego Process?

The film Soldiers of Peace, narrated by actor Michael Douglas, is about individuals in some of the world's hot spots who are creating peace in their local area. It was interesting because the conflict resolution techniques which led to improved relations between previously warring parties were remarkably similar to those one might use in a therapy situation with an individual seeking ...
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How Relationships Work: Your Inner Selves, Vulnerability and Bonding Patterns

When you understand how relationships work, it becomes easier to solve relationship problems and enjoy better relationships. But in order to do that, first you need to look at how you work. This post explains how we are all made up of many selves (also known as inner selves, parts or sub-personalities), and how the dance of these selves affects our relationships.  ...
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Attachment Parenting vs Authoritative Parenting

I identify more as an 'attachment parent' than an 'authoritative parent' but I've always wondered why people would raise their children in an authoritative or authoritarian way. So I did an experiment and got in touch with my own inner authoritarian parental energy to see what I could learn from it. The lessons were valuable indeed. This is what I discovered:  T here’s a bit ...