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Motherhood and Spirituality: A New Kind of Enlightenment

Motherhood and spirituality, including enlightenment-seeking, are for most people unrelated. And the search for spiritual enlightenment is seen as an individual activity or something you do together with other seekers, and almost always separately to family life. So when a woman becomes a mother, she usually gives up or puts on hold any spiritual and enlightenment ambitions.  In my book Enlightenment Through ...
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How to be a Good Parent When You Believe You’re Being a Bad Parent

Feeling sick? Tired? Irritable? Know you're going to be a bad parent today? Here's how to be a good parent even when you believe you're being a bad parent. Iwoke up yesterday morning with the head cold my kids had been passing to each other over the last few weeks, a massive headache and tiredness from not having slept well because my youngest had ...
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Responding to Your Child Crying When They’re Upset

When you see your child is upset and is crying, your natural response is probably to make them feel better, and this usually translates into stopping them crying. There is another approach, which involves supporting your child to cry it all out. This honours their feelings and enables your child to process them fully. The advantages of this in the long term are priceless. ...
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How to Handle Picky Eaters More Easily

One of the biggest challenges with raising children is getting them to eat the foods you want them to eat. A powerful tool you can use to make mealtimes less frustrating and more enjoyable is to pay attention to who in you is invested in the particular meal and in your children's dietary regime in general. Here's how I've used this ...
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Children as Consciousness Teachers

Your children can teach you more about yourself and about life than most adults can. I've found they can even teach you more than the most revered spiritual and personal growth teachers. If you approach parenting with this attitude of honouring your children as teachers for you, the rewards you gain are priceless. This type of parenting has come to be defined as Conscious Parenting and has become popularised since Dr Shefali Tsabary ...
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How to Support the Development of Your Child’s Personality

Various factors contribute to the nature of your child's personality but your attitude toward your child will determine how their personality develops and whether it flourishes. Here's a way to support the unique expression of your child's personality that can also offer you valuable lessons for your own personal growth. E very day it amazes me to see the different personalities of my children, and how with ...
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Supernanny or Super Mama?

I wrote this piece in response to criticism mothers often have directed at us about how we raise our children 'these days', and in particular to the popular parent-helper Supernanny. It explains the crucial parent/child bond - different to the nanny/child bond - and how this is the blueprint for all later relationships. A re you tired of hearing how mothers 'these days' do not ...
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Riding the Waves of Life

While I was working on my last book, I'd arrive home after dropping the kids at school and head straight to my desk, ignoring the mess the children love living in. During those uninterrupted hours, nothing could have lured me from my computer. I knew my time was limited (it’s amazing how short the school day seems when it's not you ...