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Responding to Your Child Crying When They’re Upset

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When you see your child is upset and is crying, your natural response is probably to make them feel better, and this usually translates into stopping them crying. There is another approach, which involves supporting your child to cry it all out. This honours their feelings and enables your child to process them fully. ...
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How to Handle Picky Eaters More Easily

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One of the biggest challenges with raising children is getting them to eat the foods you want them to eat. A powerful tool you can use to make mealtimes less frustrating and more enjoyable is to pay attention to who in you is invested in the particular meal and in your ...
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How Relationships Work: Your Inner Selves, Vulnerability and Bonding Patterns

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To understand how relationships work, you need to understand how people work. This post explains how we are all made up of many selves that together form our personality - such as the Inner Carer and the Responsible Parent, the Pleaser and the Critical Parent, the Vulnerable Child and Playful Child - and how these selves affect our relationships.  W e ...
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Attachment Parenting vs Authoritative Parenting

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I identify more as an 'attachment parent' than an 'authoritative parent' but I've always wondered why people would raise their children in an authoritative or authoritarian way. So I did an experiment and got in touch with my own inner authoritarian parental energy to see what I could learn from it. The lessons were ...
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Connect With Your Child Consciously (Or With Anyone Else!)

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Learn how to consciously connect with your children to help with all kinds of parenting challenges. Conscious parenting involves becoming aware of your natural connecting style and learning how to choose the way you connect in different situations to help you with the day-to-day challenges of parenting.  C onnecting with your children (and with anyone else!) is something ...
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Supernanny or Super Mama?

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I wrote this piece in response to criticism mothers often have directed at us about how we raise our children 'these days', and in particular to the popular parent-helper Supernanny. It explains the crucial parent/child bond - different to the nanny/child bond - and how this is the blueprint for all later relationships. A re ...
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My First Tween Issue: Ear Piercing

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To pierce or not to pierce. Parents have to make all kinds of decisions about when and if to allow something their child wants, and when to allow ear piercing is what this post is about. M y eldest daughter, who has just turned ten, is leading me into the unexplored territory of tweenhood. ...