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Dealing with School Bullying

If your child has been bullied at school, or if you've noticed their behaviour and personality has changed, it's worth looking at how their teacher relates with and regards your child. You might also want to consider whether the teacher takes action to investigate the relationship dynamics in the classroom. It can make the world of difference to your child, as I discovered with ...
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How to Make Your Relationship Work: Respect Your Relationship as Teacher, Healer and Guide

To make your relationship work so that it's satisfying and fulfilling for both you and your partner, begin to respect your relationship as your teacher, healer and guide. There are ten fundamental steps to do this in your relationship. In my book The Perfect Relationship I describe the ten steps to transform a relationship into one that supports both partners in the relationship to grow and heal. The ...
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How to Handle Picky Eaters More Easily

One of the biggest challenges with raising children is getting them to eat the foods you want them to eat. A powerful tool you can use to make mealtimes less frustrating and more enjoyable is to pay attention to who in you is invested in the particular meal and in your children's dietary regime in general. Here's how I've used this ...
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Meet Your Inner Business Selves

Most of the information available on personality types in business tends to focus on identifying the business personality types of management and staff as if people were only one personality type. The problem is that although we might have a main, or primary, self, we now know that humans are multi-faceted and have many inner personality types - or inner selves. Most of the ...
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Should Parents Stand United When Raising Their Children – Even If They Disagree?

Here are some thoughts on the conventional ‘rule’ that parents must have the same parenting style and always agree with one another when raising and disciplining their children. M y own parents were absolute opposites – Dionysian and Apollonian energies personified. My mother was a highly intellectual and serious woman who valued learning and studying above all else. She often told me ...
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Conflict Resolution in Africa uses the Aware Ego Process?

The film Soldiers of Peace, narrated by actor Michael Douglas, is about individuals in some of the world's hot spots who are creating peace in their local area. It was interesting because the conflict resolution techniques which led to improved relations between previously warring parties were remarkably similar to those one might use in a therapy situation with an individual seeking ...
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How Relationships Work: Your Inner Selves, Vulnerability and Bonding Patterns

When you understand how relationships work, it becomes easier to solve relationship problems and enjoy better relationships. But in order to do that, first you need to look at how you work. This post explains how we are all made up of many selves (also known as inner selves, parts or sub-personalities), and how the dance of these selves affects our relationships.  ...
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Supernanny or Super Mama?

I wrote this piece in response to criticism mothers often have directed at us about how we raise our children 'these days', and in particular to the popular parent-helper Supernanny. It explains the crucial parent/child bond - different to the nanny/child bond - and how this is the blueprint for all later relationships. A re you tired of hearing how mothers 'these days' do not ...
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My First Tween Issue: Ear Piercing

To pierce or not to pierce. Parents have to make all kinds of decisions about when and if to allow something their child wants, and when to allow ear piercing is what this post is about. M y eldest daughter, who has just turned ten, is leading me into the unexplored territory of tweenhood. The term ‘tween’, and probably also the life stage, didn’t ...