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How Do You Know if Your Relationship is Over? First Find Out if You’re in a ‘Negative Bonding Pattern’

Should you end your relationship? That's a question many people ask at some stage in a long-term relationship. Especially after a big argument, an attraction or affair, or a series of smaller disagreements over time, or if you find yourself feeling negative about your relationship or about your partner. But before taking action you might later regret, first work out if you're stuck in a negative bonding pattern ...
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Who is Stopping You? It’s an Inside Job! | Bridgit Dengel Gaspard Interview

Watch this interview with New York Voice Dialogue teacher Bridgit Dengel Gaspard to learn how to stop self sabotage. Bridgit's a highly experienced teacher and workshop presenter and you'll gain valuable insights from taking the time to sit back, watch and listen to this video. Visit Bridgit's website to learn more about her and her work, including her upcoming workshop and book. She's based ...
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Meet Your Inner Business Selves

Most of the information available on personality types in business tends to focus on identifying the business personality types of management and staff as if people were only one personality type. The problem is that although we might have a main, or primary, self, we now know that humans are multi-faceted and have many inner personality types - or inner selves. Most of the ...
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Has Your Relationship Lost its Spark? Check if You’re Stuck in a ‘Positive Bonding Pattern’

If your relationship has lost its spark but you still love your partner, it's likely you're stuck in a relationship pattern called a positive bonding pattern. Learn how these innate relationship patterns work, and how to navigate them so you can get your relationship back on track. It's normal for the excitement you might have felt at the beginning of your relationship to diminish over ...
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How to Keep Your Relationship Strong After a Baby

Having a baby is usually a time of great joy but it is also a time when the relationship between partners is challenged. This is because you undergo a major transformation when you become a parent. A whole new part of your psyche is born - the Inner Mother or Inner Father. This personal change, together with the addition of a new person in the family system, leads to ...
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How Relationships Work: Your Inner Selves, Vulnerability and Bonding Patterns

When you understand how relationships work, it becomes easier to solve relationship problems and enjoy better relationships. But in order to do that, first you need to look at how you work. This post explains how we are all made up of many selves (also known as inner selves, parts or sub-personalities), and how the dance of these selves affects our relationships.  ...
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Connect With Your Child Consciously (Or With Anyone Else!)

Learn how to consciously connect with your children to help with all kinds of parenting challenges. Conscious parenting involves becoming aware of your natural connecting style and learning how to choose the way you connect in different situations to help you with the day-to-day challenges of parenting.  C onnecting with your children (and with anyone else!) is something we all do but is also something few of us ...
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Supernanny or Super Mama?

I wrote this piece in response to criticism mothers often have directed at us about how we raise our children 'these days', and in particular to the popular parent-helper Supernanny. It explains the crucial parent/child bond - different to the nanny/child bond - and how this is the blueprint for all later relationships. A re you tired of hearing how mothers 'these days' do not ...
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My First Tween Issue: Ear Piercing

To pierce or not to pierce. Parents have to make all kinds of decisions about when and if to allow something their child wants, and when to allow ear piercing is what this post is about. M y eldest daughter, who has just turned ten, is leading me into the unexplored territory of tweenhood. The term ‘tween’, and probably also the life stage, didn’t ...